Once contact was made, an elaborate flirting protocol began with a small but necessary piece of pretty equipment no decent Victorian woman left home without - her prized paper fan. Here's the unspoken Victorian wedding customs of the day we find funny and fascinating:
Fan slow—I am engaged
Fan with right hand in front of face—Come on
Fan with left hand in front of face—Leave me
Fan open and shut—Kiss me
Fan open wide—Love
Fan half open—Friendship
Fan swinging—See me home?